Four years ago, in the early stages of the “two week pause”, my middle man kept getting sick. I mean—he had been in daycare since 10 weeks old and was always getting this bug or that. So being sick was normal. We had gotten used to the dreaded it’s just viral diagnosis. But it was pretty weird when we were literally never leaving the house that he kept getting sick.
Then the mild virus which caused a random low grade fever that was easily confused with teething progressed into OMG! This fever is SO high! Do I need to call an ambulance? I clearly remember the first time I saw a 105* temperature pop up on the thermometer. Aaron was working from home—as we had all started doing. I screamed for him as I carried George’s still body to the bathroom to run a tepid bath. I tried to get him to take some ibuprofen or acetaminophen but he just couldn’t do it.
How long had it been since I had last given it to him? Was it too soon? Did it even matter at this point?

I called the doctor and they were stumped. In those early pandemic days, doctors had their nurses triaging over the phone. If you were lucky, maybe they would see you in parking lot or empty office. Not even kidding. Ours was treating every child as if they had a viral infection. You couldn’t even get a Covid test at that time—remember that? George had 4 fevers over the course of 10 weeks and they hadn’t seen us even one time.
I was a few weeks from giving birth to my youngest by this time. I was about to lose it on the triaging nurse if she said to just treat the symptoms again. But, luckily, she agreed that it was time for him to be seen by a physician. We went to the office all masked up. He definitely had inflammation in his lymph nodes. The doctor thought it might be best to run some bloodwork—on a hunch.


That bloodwork revealed some out of control inflammation that was highly abnormal. She followed her gut thinking maybe it could be something called Periodic Fever Adenitis Pharyngitis Aphthosis or PFAPA for short. She had never seen another patient with it but she had just read a journal article about it. There seemed to be a rise in the diagnosis of PFAPA due to the pandemic. It could no longer be just a virus and doctors started to investigate further on their repeat fever kids.

The pediatrician didn’t even know how to begin treatment as this was way out of her wheelhouse. She referred us to a pediatric infectious disease doctor to make sure we weren’t missing something. That doctor referred us to a pediatric rheumatologist. After some additional testing and bloodwork, it was confirmed. It took almost a year to get the official PFAPA diagnosis. During that time, George had an additional NINETEEN fever cycles.

They all started the same with deep, dark bags under his eyes that looked like he hadn’t slept in weeks. He would eat everything in sight for a few days as if he was a camel filling his hump. It was a good thing he did, because the next 5 days brought nothing but 105*+ fevers, sleep, and the occasional sip of water. But that was about it.
On his worst nights, I would draw up ibuprofen and acetaminophen syringes placing them on a plate on my nightstand. I would set a multitude of alarms and then label it with the coordinating medication for every few hours. He would sleep with us every 18 days for five nights straight. Every 180 minutes, my phone would announce it was time for him to be medicated. I would take and then diligently record his temperature in the dark while carefully giving him medicine in a dream state.

The routine repeated for another year. Then on March 4, 2022, he was scheduled for surgery. They removed his tonsils and adenoids which should have been done long before. Thank you, Covid, for preventing SO many “elective” surgeries.

We haven’t had a fever cycle since. I sometimes think he has had a feverless cycle. I can see faint under-eye circles. He will complain about joint pain or a headache. His appetite will pick up then mysteriously disappear. His sleep will deepen and he will be extra clingy. But the fever never comes. And for this we are grateful.

Tonight I asked George what he remembers about his fevers and surgery. He only remembers eating jello in recovery. As for the fevers, he remembers feeling bad. All the time. He remembers his body feeling yucky. He asked if the fevers would come back and I reassured him they wouldn’t.
But could they? Maybe. But no sign of it.
I’ve heard nightmare stories about diagnosis taking years and years and years. I’ve read about doctors refusing surgery due to lack of throat infections and insurance companies denying coverage. We are so fortunate for a doctor who thought outside the box. We are forever grateful for specialists who diagnosed and treated quickly.
He’s a new kid since the PFAPA remission. His language blossomed. His creativity soared. He grew FIVE full inches! He’s super smart. His favorite things to do are play with his brother and beloved babydoll, Ralph. He’s an artist and a gamer. He’s full of passion and sass.
And he’s healthy. He’s so healthy and so happy.



What a nightmare! In 1997, my strep was isolated as a cause, and I had the surgery within a few months. I hope the outcome is successful.
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Yes. My youngest was (is?) a strep carrier. He had it 8 times in 11 months. His tonsils were taken out this past fall. He hasn’t had strep since. I’m hoping we are all done with that!
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I remember your pfapa slices in the past. I’m so sorry you had to go through that. You may or may not remember that we went through this with our daughter. Well sort of. Her tests showed it wasn’t actually pfapa, but she had all of the symptoms. Her fevers went on for 2.5 years. 5 days of high fevers every month like clockwork. Sometimes joint pain. Same eyes like you described. It was such a stressful time. She was also getting frequent ear infections and we ended up doing tubes. And the fevers disappeared. It shouldn’t have helped but it did. I cried and hugged her ent during her follow up. Like you, I saw a future of endless fevers and missed school and a sad, sick child for years and years. And thankfully that was not the case. I’m so glad your guy is in remission. I hope the fevers never come back.
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I remember you talking about your daughter. My youngest had a a bunch of fevers over a 4-5 month period. For him, he was a strep carrier so he was always just…sick. Yeeted those tonsils and he’s been great since for the most part. I was terrified though. I just saw it all happening again. It was such a scary time.
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I bet it was scary. I’m so glad his surgery helped!
My daughter’s periodic fevers ended but she was then and continues to be sick A LOT. It’s so sad. Since she was little, she’s always asking why she’s so sick all the time. 😦
Anyway, I’m so happy for you that your little guy is doing well!
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I’m so sorry, Natalie. That has to be so difficult for all of you.
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Oh my goodness, the change in him from the early pictures to the current ones! I had not realized that PFAPA diagnoses were increasing during the pandemic. How unusual. And how unusual that simply removing his tonsils and adenoids sent him into remission. I’m glad you did not have to fight through years of denials and red tape to get help.
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I am, too. I read about other families and they are going through this for literally 4, 5, 6 years. We were about 2 years from first noting the pattern to surgery. I think about the damage of 105*+ fevers and what that must do to the brain. He cycled every 18 days for a 5 day fever onset. That was 13 days without a fever. But it would take home 2-3 to recover on the backend. And then there 2-3 days on the front end as it was ramping up was rough, too. He literally only had 7/18 decent days between cycles. I’m not abuse how his little body withstood it. Those were some scary days.
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I cannot image how terrible it would be to see your child suffer like that for so many years. The damage of incredibly high fevers like that, unchecked for 4-6 years has to be intense. Physical development. Brain development. Learning. Especially when the fix seems to be relatively simple.
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so glad he’s been better. Love the baby G pix you included, he looks so much older now!
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I cannot believe how much older he looks lately!
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